Updated: Jun 17
I remember clearly... we were sitting on his porch, and he said, "Oh yeah, that was during the time I wasn't talking to you." Ahh, yes...I'd been ghosted.
It was a conscious choice for him to cut me out of his life.
Because it was too painful to have me unexpectedly showing up in his text thread. For a man who was used to trying to control his emotions, this was just too much.
With me, he couldn't control how he felt, and it was intense. So he had to cut me out so he could feel more in control.
Ghosting from a twin is waaaay different from ghosting in other relationships.
It doesn’t mean they don’t care about you or your feelings anymore.
With a twin, your relationship isn't done. So, take a deep breath. You don't have to stalk him on social media, or drive by his house to see what's going on, or.....
Relax into this moment now, feeling the ground beneath you, and recognize that any fear will actually push them away.
Chances are, your twin doesn't know why they are ghosting. Like my twin, they ghost because of overwhelm, fear and repelling energy. You feel intense! The love they have for you is intense!
Ghosting doesn’t mean they don’t care about you anymore.
The truth is that your souls (your soul and your twin’s soul) use the push/pull of closeness and distance to show you wounds that need to be healed. By addressing these, you both grow, and become less triggered, more integrated and aligned to who you truly are, and let go of emotional reactivity so you become able to handle being around each other all the time. Get help here
What NOT to do:
Don't send them angry texts or voicemails. I mean really, when people get angry with you, yelling and carrying on, does it bring you closer?
Don't guilt them. They actually can't help doing the behavior they're doing.
Often they themselves don't understand it, and/or the intensity of emotion welling up in them is just so much that they have to go process it. In the man cave.
If you guilt him, crying and letting him know how down you are, it actually makes him feel like less of a man. I'm making her unhappy, and I really care about her. It feels hopeless.
Don't stalk on Facebook or Instagram. This just makes it worse for you -- dwelling on what they are doing is crazymaking, and doesn't allow you to enjoy life, or heal.
Do - find a way to raise your vibes! Hike, paint, call a friend and go for an uplifting dinner...
write to him (and don't send it) dance, sing, commit to your purpose.
There is so much you Can do. Invite yourself into the highest version of yourself.
Which is ultimately what will bring him back in.
Let's heal the wounds that keep you from Union. Schedule a session here.